I have come to find that if it's not one thing, it's another. These days, it's mainly been all about my sister and problems with her husband. But most importantly, taking care of her kids.
One weekend in my junior year of high school, my sister just up and left for Pennsylvania without telling us. My dad was out of town so it was just me and mom at the house. We found a note in her room that let us know that she is moving to Pennsylvania with her "best friend" who picked her up and to have a great weekend. Even with the ever so meaningful well wishes, our weekend was one of the hardest to deal with.
My sister had met a married couple online and they befriended her and invited her to move there with them. They picked her up and brought her to Pennsylvania. After just two days of being there, the husband asked my sister if she wanted to bear his children. So she did.
Keep this in mind, my sister is not like any other adult. She is borderline mentally retarded so she doesn't have the mental stability or capacity that normal people do. This couple knew that and they took advantage her.
My sister shortly became pregnant with my nephew. She wanted to marry this guy so she made a big deal that the couple were still married. The guy had told her that they were in the middle of a divorce, but that didn't seem true by any means.
Throughout the pregnancy, there were signs of abuse. My sister would call my dad to come to get her and bring her back because he would grab her and drag her off the bed. My dad went to bring her back, but with no luck. She changed her mind. On the way back, my dad fell asleep at the wheel and got into an accident. Later she had called a second and then a third time, and still produced the same results.
My nephew was born six weeks early and had to be put into the NICU for quite some time. After a while, she and the couple came down so she could visit with us. It was nice to visit but it was a different story meeting the couple. Disgusting and vile as they were.
One day my sister had gotten out of their van and they just took off with her son. This had been their plan all along and even though she had seen an email between them, she still didn't believe it would happen. Either that or she didn't understand. She did get him back and the two of them ended up marrying and went back to Pennsylvania.
Ten months after she had my nephew, she gave birth to my niece. Things were rough for them since they were living in a not so good apartment thing, so after a while, they moved here. They stayed with me and my parents for a while then got their own place after they had enough money.
The abuse wasn't that often but when it did happen, it was bad. My sister would come over with black eye with make up over top of it. Apparently he and his ex wife lost custody of her kids a while back because of his abuse towards them. Things just kept on.
Now my sister has moved back in with us and her kids because of adultery situations. She has gone through a custody battle and a good many court dates for assault and battery which she has never gone through with. She has dropped every court thing and then expects us to still be behind her in her decisions. We have bent over backwards for her and we get nothing in return.
However, we do get time with the kids. But nowadays, even though she is separated from her husband and has a custody agreement, even when it is her weekend or her days, she is always at her husband's place. We only get to see the kids maybe 10 minutes a day since they only come back to sleep. Dad even bought her a car and she has been paying it off every month.
Yesterday, dad went to eat lunch with my nephew at school and found out from him that they are moving back to Pennsylvania. . . In two weeks. This is the thanks that my parents get for helping her through all of her crappy situations. We may never see those kids again if her husband has her way. But whatever happens now is all on her. We have helped her all we could and now it is up to her to deal with her decisions. Dad also said that because of That, she is not taking the car with her. He is going to give it either to me or mom. It also looks like dad is switching her phone with grandma's. He gave us new smartphones and is gonna make her leave it here since she uses up all of our data.
I am just so heartbroken for those kids having to deal with them as parents. It's just so sad to see all of this happening to them and their parents don't care. Why is it that people who don't care about putting their children before themselves can keep them? It's horrible. But God is with them and I know that He will not let any harm come to them.
This is one of the most trying times of our faith and trust in God, but we know that everything is in His hands. My sister is an adult and needs to finally take responsibility for her actions and deal with the consequences. We can no longer get her out of those situations. It is up to her now. All we can do is pray and hope. But one thing is for sure, if we didn't have faith, we wouldn't have anything. God is everything to us and He is in control.
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